Generally I work a few days weekly in long term care settings and I am acutely aware of the stress that both residents and staff are probably feeling right now. So today when I came across this post on one of my professional listservs, I couldn’t help but share. It, of course, fits the stress of staff and residents in that setting, but more generally it fits the rest of us too.
(Reposting with permission)
Stress is not a psychological thing. It is a chemical thing. In sufficient quantities, stress chemicals have adverse effects including over-riding our common sense and intellect, and driving us toward more primitive and less civilized behaviors such as fight or flight. Constant change, social isolation, fear, and uncertainty keep stress chemicals flowing through our brains and bodies at much higher levels than we are used to managing.
In these particularly trying times we must think twice before acting or reacting. Auto-pilot doesn’t work so well at these times.
Fortunately, there are relatively simple things we can do to switch off of auto-pilot and re-capture control of our actions. One particularly helpful step stands out. Before you act or react, ask yourself if what you are about to say or do is what you would have said or done three months ago before the virus? Simply stopping to ask this one question puts you back in control of your actions and helps you be faithful to who you really are.
Here are some warning signs that stress chemistry has taken the wheel and is driving you more than your own normal personality.
Signs you are in Fight Mode
Irritability
Blaming
Criticizing
Gossiping
Selfishness
Less empathy
Excessive information seeking
Signs you are in Flight Mode
Hoarding
Alcohol or other drugs
Difficulty Concentrating
Feeling exhausted
Changes in sleep
Avoiding people
Avoiding tasks
Signs you are in Self-Control
Enjoy time with others
Forward looking
Proactive
Productive
Sleep and appetite normal
Find the positive
Energy goes to productive solutions
Michael B. Spellman, Ph.D.
Behavioral Health Management Consultants